Updated: Jun 20, 2019
Proverbs 31 is filled with some AMAZING proclamations of what a woman can and should be. So often when we think of the Proverbs 31 Woman, we use everything that she did as a measurement of what we need to do in order to be considered one. I always tell women that it is not about you using it to measure if you hit the mark or failed but more so a guide of how to become an all-around woman of God.
I love all of Proverbs 31. It took some time for me to realize that becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman does not mean you have to be married or have kids. Working on becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is something that can be practiced daily, no matter where we are in our walk with God or in our lives. Yes, there are verses that mention her duties in these common roles that we associate with women, mother and wife, but merely preparing our hearts for those things can help bring us closer to God. As a woman, even without the titles, she is amazing and there are verses that are just plain powerful. Proverbs 31 is filled with things all women can strive for.
For example, as women we love making sure we look good. It is not just about being pretty but when we look nice it makes us feel nice. It makes us feel confident. I often admire women who can put pieces together well. I consider myself to be very modest when it comes to fashion. Every now and then I may grab something out of my fashion league and take a chance. However, for the most part I am not rocking anything too flamboyant.
I have admired one of my Facebook friends, from my hometown, as she constantly shows up and shows out in the fashion arena. Every picture, she is styled with such confidence and grace. When I look at her pictures I instantly think of the scripture “she is cloth with strength and dignity”!
I asked Dionicia if style for her is natural. I wanted to know does she intentional say “I’m about to kill the scene” when she is putting together outfits.
“I would describe my sense of style as intentional (most of the time). If I am going to an event then I plan days, sometimes weeks ahead. If it’s an impromptu kind of night, I’ll just throw on what’s most comfortable.” --Dionicia
Then I thought about it. How many of us are intentional about what we wear? It makes me curious to know, “Girl where do you shop?” Like no seriously, where do you shop? What are you clothe in?
“I shop online 90% of the time because I don’t like the hassle of large crowds. I find it easier to just shop online unless I need something in a limited amount of time. I shop at Forever 21, Fashion Nova, local boutiques, Wal-Mart, and a few more.” --Dionicia
Let’s look at your “spiritual clothing”.
Are you clothe in shame?
Are you clothe in depression?
Are you clothe in a facade?
Are you clothe in worry?
You wouldn’t intentionally go in a store and pick a pair of pants and shirt that you don’t like and say “yaaaaaassssssss!” So, women why are we so quick to continue to wear shame, depression, worry, etc? It is God’s desire for us as Christian women to wrap ourselves in honor, inner beauty, and strength.
Think about the last time you tried on a piece of garment and you didn’t like the way it fit. You didn’t buy it right? You didn’t want to wear it I’m sure!
The unique thing about this verse is that EVERYDAY we wear clothes. EVERYDAY! If the scripture says she is clothe in strength and dignity, this means EVERYDAY we are wearing strength and dignity. When I internalize that, it makes me want to ask, “Are you intentional about your outfit?”
Are you intentional about being clothe in strength and dignity?
The capacity of an object or substance to withstand great force or pressure.
The state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect.
Not only are we covered in strength, we are worthy of honor and respect as well. We may not feel worthy by ourselves, but He who first loved us makes us worthy. Despite the past mistakes we’ve committed and regardless of our imperfections, we can be clothed with HIS strength and dignity again.
I asked Dionicia what advice she would give to the woman who doesn’t have as much “style sense” but is looking to be intentional about dressing and looking nice.
“I would say draw inspiration from what you already have and if that’s not enough use Pinterest to help you find different styles on different body types. Also, wear the things that you’re comfortable and most confident in.” --Dionicia
Along the same lines, I want to give you that same motivation. Draw inspiration from what you have – those things you have to be thankful and grateful for right now. I know some days I feel clothe with frustration, tiredness, and exhaustion. So, as I do for myself, I would like to give you a couple of places to shop when you feel clothe in anything other than strength and dignity!
Contentment Philippians 4:11-13
Depression Psalms 91:14-16
Anger Proverbs 15:11
Anxiousness Ecclesiastes 3
Backsliding Jeremiah 3:22
Grief/Death Matthew 5:4
Fear Deuteronomy 33:27
Strength/Weaknesses 2 Corinthians 12:9
Worry Philippians 4:6
Spiritual Warfare Ephesians 6:12
Suffering James 1:2-4
Trusting God Proverbs 3:5-6
Trials Romans 8:28
Overcoming Deuteronomy 28:13
Be so busy serving the Lord and working on you that you look and feel fabulous (inside and out). Be so intentional about your outfit that another woman wants to ask... Girl where do you shop?